Monday, April 11, 2011

Amusing Ourselves to Death!

I wanted to start this blog to share our life with you. Many of our friends and family live so far away that we rarely get to see them. So what better way to do that than through a blog where we can share pictures and stories and updates about us! I have also thought it is a great place for me to share my opinions about things. Some of you may learn another side of me that you never knew existed :-) For those of you who don't know me that well, I have strong opinions about certain issues. Poor James has had to listen to many of my rants about these issues. So, I thought that I could also use this space to share what has been on my heart and mind. One thing I love being an American, is that we have the freedom to be able to voice our opinions. We are free to think and believe and usually say what we want. I would encourage you to educate yourself on issues - especially why you believe what you believe. I used to never take an interest in politics or for standing up for what I believe in, but if I don't then who will? The Lord has been telling me that I need to take a stand for Him - for Truth. Even though this does not come naturally to me, I know that the Lord wants me to, so I am working at doing that even if that means others who disagree with me chew me out and call me all kinds of names - which has already happened. If you disagree with me - that is ok.. I am glad that you also stand for what you believe in, but I would also ask you to respect others whose opinions are different than yours. I would even ecourage you to share with me your views/comments/suggestions. So, with that long introduction, here is one such issue that has been on my heart:

James and I have been working at not watching much TV, because it seems like much of it is so bad! Even TV commercials are very inappropriate and would have never been aired 10 years ago. We canceled our cable and now just have Netflix, so we can control what we see on the TV. Netflix has a number of good and clean movies and shows on their instant queue. However, there are some horrible ones at the same time, and I wish there were ways to control that! That is my only major negative thing I hate about Netflix. Some of the "video covers" and titles could even be described as pornographic!

There's a great book that James recently read called Amusing Ourselves To Death by Neil Postman. He talks about how TV has changed how we think and has greatly and negatively impacted our lives. You can see how much of an impact the media has on our culture today. They have become very political and biased. I was listening to a John MacArthur sermon the other day going into work and he quoted much of Postman's book. Back in the farming days, fathers and sons would work hard up keeping the land and the wives and daughters would be busy working in the home. The family would get together at the end of a very busy day and eat dinner together and spend good quality time together. The wives often homeschooedl their children and therefore had great influence on their lives - more than anyone else. Parent's had more control over what their children were exposed to and children still had a great sense of innocence. Since the invention of TV, parents have a lot less control over what their children are exposed to. Postman says that TV shows no partiality. It does not care who watches it or what they watch.While there are some great things on TV, it seems like the good, wholesome, moral shows on TV are becoming less and less. MacArthur stated some stats that showed that during the evening hours when children are supposed to be in bed and adult TV is on, there are thousands of children who are watching TV during those "adult TV" hours.

It is even more shocking to me  what our children are watching on "children's" TV shows today. Children are becoming greatly influenced by what they see on TV. I've seen it affect children who are not even in school yet and how it has influenced their dress and even self-image. Postman states that TV has exposed adult things to children causing them to lose their innocence. Once innocence is lost, you can never get it back. Children do not have the mental capacity of knowing how to handle adult types of  issues. The more they are exposed, the more desensitized they become to it and as they grow older, the more they will think is ok. There are even adult TV shows that are cartoons. I know growing up, that cartoons were created as children's shows for children to watch. So , whenever a cartoon was on, I would want to watch it and think that it was for kids. So, I can only imagine young children when they see a cartoon also think that it was created for them and watch it.

 Postman wrote his book in 1985. If he thought TV had such a negative impact on our children then (and even adults) back in the 80's, I wonder what he would think of it now?! As Postman stated, "Technology always has unforeseen consequences, and it is not always clear, at the beginning, who or what will win, and who or what will lose..." Since his death, we have all seen the internet become greatly used and have a great influence on much of the world! It is scary to me, the observations Postman made, who is not even a believer, back in the 80's and how much more children are exposed to today and what impact it has in their lives.
"Our politics, religion, news, athletics, education and commerce have been transformed into congenial adjuncts of show business, largely without protest or even much popular notice. The result is that we are a people on the verge of amusing ourselves to death."
Neil Postman

Friday, April 8, 2011

Saved and Shaved

From James...

On May 21 I will be shaving my head for the second time in my life, but this time on purpose.  The last time I did it, I was cutting my own hair and got distracted by a phone call just as I was getting started.  When I got off the phone, I picked up the shearers and buzzed right down the middle of my head.  When I saw all the hair on the floor, I realized that I had forgotten to put any guard on so I had a bald line down the middle of my head with hair on either side (sort of like God parting the Red Sea with dry ground in the middle).  With a hairdo like that, there is not much you can do except to take the rest off.  Here is a picture of what I looked like then (holding my nephew).


This time, I will be shaving my head on purpose and for a good cause:  research for a cure for cancer.  I will showing my support to Cam, a boy in my church who has been battling cancer for several years now.  He is an awesome kid that I am honored to know.  I will be part of the team "Saved and Shaved" from my church.  There are quite a few of us out to show our support for Cam.  If you would like to support me, you can click on the following link:  http://www.stbaldricks.org/participants/jamestkendall  I'm sure Temarie will post pictures of before, during, and after.  If you live in the Raleigh area, come out and support us at Tyler's Taproom in Apex May 21.  Head shaving begins at noon.  There is also a Coldstone Creamery fundraiser this Tuesday from 5-8 at the Coldstone in Beaver Creek. We will definitely be there to help support Cam and to eat some great ice cream!

Saturday, April 2, 2011

Piano Lessons


I have been telling James for a while now that he should teach piano lessons. He is amazing at the piano and has been playing for 26 years! It's funny, because some times I will find him in our office where our keyboard is and he will be in there playing with the lights off - it's how he relaxes. When we were dating he made me a copy of songs he made up and recorded on the piano - he is so talented! I have always told him that he should teach because he is so good at the piano and I think he woud enjoy it. Well, now he has finally decided to do that! So, if you or anyone you know has been wanting lessons but can't afford it - James is going to teach lessons for $20 per lesson. He only has two more spots available, so if you're interested or someone you know is interested, you can contact him at: jamestkendall@hotmail.com.

Friday, April 1, 2011

So Rare

We were little nervous moving into our first house after hearing so many horrible neighbor stories and praying that the Lord would bless us with some great neighbors. There are definitely some neighbors that live down the road that are not too neighborly, but we are so blessed that the people we have surrounding us are some of the best people on the planet which is so rare! Seriously! I'll have to introduce you to all of them some time! One such set of neighbors are Scott and Stacy that live directly in front of our house. They are around our age and have been married for about as long as we have. They are one of the sweetest and most sacrificial couples you'll meet, and they are believers! For over a year now, Scott has been doing civilian work for the military over seas. He will be gone for about a year and a half, so they just gave him two weeks off. Scott and Stacy went to meet up in Jamaica for 2 weeks and then he was going to go back to work overseas, but they came back to the US a little early to surprise friends and family. So, last night we got together like old times playing one of our favotie games - Settlers of Cataan. If you do not own this game - you must! It will be one of the most fun games you will ever played! We were introduced to it by some good friends then we had to buy it. Then we introduced it to Scott and Stacy and then they had to buy it. Then we introudced it to James' family and now they own it, and we play every time we see them :-) See how fun it must be? One of the negative things about Settlers is that you have to play with 4 players. So, James and I rarely get to play and were so excited to be able to play again last night and play with our sweet neighbors. Afterwards, we had fun with poker, which we haven't play in several years! I will be sad whenever we leave this neighborhood or if one of our neighbors leaves. It will be hard to replace them!


Scott and Stacy


Stacy's poker face

James' poker face

My chips by the end of the game :-)

Monday, March 21, 2011

Khara

Ok, so I know it has been a while - alirght, a looonnnng while since my last post :-) I promise to do a better job! I wanted to start (restart) this blog to update my family and friends about what's been going on in our lives since so many of you live in so many different places. It is kind of a way you can catch up with us! First, I wanted to share with you why I named this blog Kendall Khara. While doing some personal study in Galatians, I was reading about the fruit of the spirit in 5:22-23. I looked up the Greek word for each of the fruit and its meaning. The word for joy in the Greek is Khara, which is joy that comes only from the Holy Spirit. Strong's Dictionary says that it is an awareness of God's grace and comes from the same root word Kharis which means grace. It is deeper than what we would consider joy. Webster's Dictionary defines joy as, "a state of happiness or felicity, or the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of possessing what one desires: delight, or the expression or exhibit of such emotion." I tend to think that, sadly, a lot of Americans tend to describe their joy as the second definition. Khara joy is much deeper than what Webster describes. It is a type of joy that you can still experience in the midst of harships and trials. As one person described it, " Khara is more than just a warm, fuzzy feeling - it is a character trait tempered by fire." It is a type of joy that you can only experience if you have Christ in you. I have gone through some hard trials of my own and I don't know how I could have ever made it through them without the Lord's help. I know I would not be where I am today without the Lord guiding me and giving me strength and endurance to make it through those dark times. In those dark times, I was still able to find my comfort and joy in the Lord - even though I didn't always know why He put me through those trials.It is because of those trials, that my relationship with the Lord is deeper - my joy in Him is deeper.  Khara is such a pretty sounding word, but after doing some more studying, I realized that it not only sounds beautiful but it's meaning is even more beautiful!

Thursday, May 1, 2008

Praise the Lord!

God has been merciful and gracious and good to us as we have been looking for a job for James for the past 2 years. Every time we were discouraged He would have a church call for an interview or a school interested in him teaching Bible, which I felt was His way of reminding us that He had not forgotten about us and would bring the right job along in His perfect timing. We needed to trust in Him and wait. After waiting for 2 years, God showed us His lovingkindness and mercy by providing 2 great positions! One church was in Apex and the other church was in FL near Jacksonville. James had a 2nd interview at the church in Apex and it went really well. While we were waiting to hear back from them, the church in FL called and wanted to fly James down for an interview! A few days before he was to fly out, the church in Apex offered him the position! Since we had not yet been to a service we wanted to take time to visit the church and to pray about it. We also didn't want to write off the church in FL also. So, on Tuesday James flew down to FL and really liked the church and the pastor there. It was great to see the Lord provide not just one great church but two! It was hard to choose between the two churches but after much praying and talking we felt like the Lord was leading us to the church in Apex. It's called Salem Baptist and is about 30 mins. from where we live now in Raleigh. We know we don't deserve this position and are so thankful that the Lord has been gracious and merciful enough to provide it for us! Especially a position as great as this one! We wanted to thank all of you who have been praying for us and who have supported us through these last 2 years and all of the ups and downs of job hunting! We are so thankful for this position and are excited to see how God will use us at Salem! Please pray for us as we now start a new stage in our lives. That the Lord will give us wisdom and discernment as we start looking for a new place to live and especially for James as he starts his new job. I'll post up pictures of the church and a new place (once we find one)!